Follow Your Head, Then

Think Before You Act

Noureen Ben Halim

We have all been through it. We have all met that sweet, caring, kind, person who seems to be everything we ever wanted. Everything is perfect for the next couple months, everything continues to be an utopia, until the problems start. Whether the problem is jealousy, lack of commitment, or simply not feeling what was there before, somehow this relationship was not meant to last. It happens.

Choosing the right person for yourself, is essential for a lasting relationship. The basics are simple for agreeing to start a relationship with someone. 1) If all you have heard is negative things about this person, that is your key to run away. Be careful with who you listen to though because sometimes those who will tell you will be girls who are jealous. 2) Notice how this person acts around his friends. Is he the same person he is when he is around you? A guy’s true self will show up around his friends. For example, it is normal when he jokes around with them by calling them names, but be careful of any signs of a bad attitude ALL the time. 3) Ask yourself, what am I looking for? You MUST have the same interests in mind. By interests, I do not mean goals and hobbies, but on the long run, you should be looking for the same thing. If you are looking for a serious relationship, and the person in front of you seems like the "guy who is confused", you should know although this type of relationship will seem perfect from every angle, it falls apart easily because of the mixed feelings on either side. If this person is not stable, then continuing in this relationship will be very hard. 4) Try to find out what he is like, and what he was like with previous people. Be careful with guys who seem to be rushing a relationship from the beginning. Starting something at a very fast pace will result in a crash and burn. 5) How does he treat you? Respect is very important. You must both have respect for one another. 6) Lastly, do you get along? Do you have chemistry?

The saying "love is blind" is true. We are often blinded by what we see and neglect to think of the consequences of what we get ourselves into. You must really think long and hard about what you want, and make it clear to the people you are with. Love is not what is portrayed in the movies. Love is what we make it. Follow your head, THEN follow your heart.